THREE FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES IN HANDLING PEOPLE

THREE FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES IN HANDLING PEOPLE
TECHNIQUE 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain
"if you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive"
I totally agree with this because girls love to criticize. for some its inevitable, and that's why they have drama. complaining is a big factor that annoys me so much. sometime people need go with the flow and not complain. don't sin either and ctr. personally i just go along with the ride and let the wind take me. avoid all conflict as well. i dont need drama entering my senior year.people do things for a reason no need for judgment. Avoid all drama with individual complainers.

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do.

Benjamin Franklin

i would stop putting myself in situations where i feel like i need to complain.

TECHNIQUE 2: GIVE HONEST AND SINCERE APPRECIATION

"The big secret in dealing with people"

People usually tell me one of the reasons they like me is because i am up front and sincere. i tell you things how they are in your face. i dont use white-lies and try to cover something up. if i asked my friend a serious question id like them to answer with the truth. i dont like sugar coatings either, direct is better. If you ask me id hate to be stuck in a situation where people lie to me. or for insistence a break up with a cliche line, "its not you its me". like tell me the truth and be honest. appreciate the sincerity they gave you and go on. the truth might only hurt for a temporarily patch.

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.

John F. Kennedy

TECHNIQUE 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want

"He who can do this has the whole world with him. he who cannot, walks a lonely way"

what this means is you and happy when there are people around. You are a social optimistic that enjoys others company. you and not one of those people to dread to have other people around. no you are one that actually welcomes them. you show excitement in the welcoming. you feel eager going to work or class wanting to talk to them. your happy that you get to talk to that person. that being, makes you have a lot of friends. its a trait of being outgoing. you are interested in them and what theyre going to tell you.

It just seems to me that the world's kind of a mess, and the more messy it gets, the more interested I am in escapist fare. Having a good time is something that isn't about the war in Iraq or the Asian flu or the Kyoto protocol - things that are horribly depressing to consider in our real lives. I'm eager to get away from them.

Eric Stoltz

Final reflection:what i feel about the technique Don't criticize, condemn or complain is to avoid the complainers. people who complain are never satisfied and you cant ever make them happy. they usually just do things for just their convenience. people who criticize are the worst, they do it usually because they're jealous. also, the second technique is give honest and sincere appreciation. That is a big factor in life because if you dont appreciate things then you tend to take things for granted. ive taken a couple of things for granted an regret it. i should've cared more and showed more love but i regret it. Arouse in the other person an eager want is an imporant one. you show people that you care an i asure you they will to.