Six ways to make people like you. if you want people to like you...
RULE #1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
"Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere"
"you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you"
"ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering"
I like to meet people. I'm the opposite of a pariah and I'm very outgoing. New people is what inviolate new morals and what keeps us open minded. meeting more people also helps us jot down who and what we like in a person. this can be used relationship wise or friendship. i don't ever want to feel obligated to be friends with anyone so this is also when you can see what are the type of people you don't like. ive taken a liking to people i thought i wouldn't be close to but now that ive seen some mutual things in common, my opinion changed. i would also like people to give me a chance instead of judging me because looks can be deceiving. i wont change for anyone nor try to kiss ass to anyone who wants me to. im me and if you don't like it, well its my convenientcy and your loss.
“It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
― Dale Carnegie
― Dale Carnegie
Rule #2: Smile
" Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, " i like you. you make me happy. i am glad to see you"
"you don't feel like smiling? then force yourself to smile"
"it creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends"
I like to see people smile. when people are happy then so am i, especially my loved ones. lately ive been so stressed out ive been forgetting to smile. i don't see the light of smiling at this time period. ive had too much bad i hold up a frown until the good arrives. too much weight on my shoulders sometimes i just don't know how i do it. sure i put up a good front because it proves nothing to me. the bags under my eyes plead for sleep, my body telling me to slow down but how can i if people make me work more.teachers are inconsiderate giving me loads of work as if thats the only homework ill get over our break. our one week break with tons of work to attend. i was absent twice last week with two sets of different classes and one of thoes classes is asking me to come in for tutoring to take 4 tests. that's just one teacher, and how am i suppose to smile with that?
"smile its free therapy"
Douglas Horton
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Rule #3 Remember names
"A mans name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language"
"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble"
To remember names is a good thing for reference. To get to know more people, a variety and not just stick to knowing one banal person. And not forgetting there names can help when you need them in the future. to meet a diversity of population and extend your social life. Its good not to be hung up on anybody either because there not going to be there forever. if someone hurt you then through that finger up and put them in your past. you don't need that piece of trash. The world is your playground to interact with others. get to talk and get their number. remember them and itll come back to help you in the future.
Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.
John F. Kenned
How to remember names:
- Face association
- Repetition
- Word Play
- speak up
- Concentrate
- Understand the importance of using another person's name
- something that reminds you of the name
- associate with the name
- Ask a friend or partner to help you
- trust yourself
"if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener"
"remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems"
Being truthfully honest, one of the best things about having a boyfriend is having someone to listen to your daily problems and help you with them. but when you tell friends they take it as complaining. they wait for for you to finish so they can to ahead and talk. then turns out they weren't listening, just anticipating for their turn. others are pretentious and like to just brag. But it works both ways in a friendship and i have to listen to them first. i need to work on it because i do get distracted easily. some conversations are just really boring, but even then you have to listen. its not fair they heard you out and you not wanting to hear them. everyone needs to feel heard.
Being truthfully honest, one of the best things about having a boyfriend is having someone to listen to your daily problems and help you with them. but when you tell friends they take it as complaining. they wait for for you to finish so they can to ahead and talk. then turns out they weren't listening, just anticipating for their turn. others are pretentious and like to just brag. But it works both ways in a friendship and i have to listen to them first. i need to work on it because i do get distracted easily. some conversations are just really boring, but even then you have to listen. its not fair they heard you out and you not wanting to hear them. everyone needs to feel heard.
A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something.
-Wilson Mizner
5 tips for active listening
- natural eye contact, don't judge and be patient
- really listen, don't think of similar experiences and what you should tell next
- allow for period of silence, wait till the other person speaks again
- from time to time repeat the persons words or paraphrase it back to them
- understand the emotion behind the words
RULE # 5 TALK IN TERMS OF THE OTHER MANS INTERESTS
"The royal road to a mans heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures not"
i agree with this because if people just disagree with everything you say, it adds tension. you need to look for similar interests. even if you don't like they like, you have to hear what they have to say about it. sometimes its better to keep your opinions to yourself.hear them out and actually listen. pay attention and maybe youll find something youlike about it. after you can talk about your intrests but give them time. listen to them. hear them out for respect. hey, you never know if youll like it to. but just by listening to them will give them a warm feeling that someone cares.
Rule #6: Make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely
"the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature"
"helping people feel important and appreciated works magic"
-john dewy
when you make someone feel special you actually attend their needs. you listen to them and if its a sad story you spare sympathy. if its a happy story you give them positive reactions. you have to let them know your listening. give them time of day to hear what they have to say. but its not only hearing them, it acquires you to have an optimistic reaction. someone can also tell you their story of their boyfriend and the next day you can ask them hows it going with them. they need feedback. not right away to interrupt them but maybe the next day. be genuinely interested enough to make them feel good.
"The royal road to a mans heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures not"
i agree with this because if people just disagree with everything you say, it adds tension. you need to look for similar interests. even if you don't like they like, you have to hear what they have to say about it. sometimes its better to keep your opinions to yourself.hear them out and actually listen. pay attention and maybe youll find something youlike about it. after you can talk about your intrests but give them time. listen to them. hear them out for respect. hey, you never know if youll like it to. but just by listening to them will give them a warm feeling that someone cares.
The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.
William Morris
Rule #6: Make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely
"the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature"
"helping people feel important and appreciated works magic"
-john dewy
when you make someone feel special you actually attend their needs. you listen to them and if its a sad story you spare sympathy. if its a happy story you give them positive reactions. you have to let them know your listening. give them time of day to hear what they have to say. but its not only hearing them, it acquires you to have an optimistic reaction. someone can also tell you their story of their boyfriend and the next day you can ask them hows it going with them. they need feedback. not right away to interrupt them but maybe the next day. be genuinely interested enough to make them feel good.
One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.
-Bob Marley
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Maya Angelou
Reflection:
The six ways to make people like you list all comes together. one without the other dosent work. for intense you can hear someone but you need the other rule to listen and actually put interests into what that person is saying. one of the best things about having a boyfriend and having someone to talk to. he sits there and listens to your deepest thoughts, then rotate. such an amazing thing sharing common interests as well, my ex and i were a whole. everything i was thinking he was to at the same time. we both had dark humor and liked the same things. the things i lacked he made up for and other way around. a special moment that i cherish is we were holding hands in the hall way walking into school and we both started to laugh. we synchronize turned to look at each other and he had asked if i was laughing and i finished his sentence with at the kid. we usually finished each others sentences.
The six ways to make people like you list all comes together. one without the other dosent work. for intense you can hear someone but you need the other rule to listen and actually put interests into what that person is saying. one of the best things about having a boyfriend and having someone to talk to. he sits there and listens to your deepest thoughts, then rotate. such an amazing thing sharing common interests as well, my ex and i were a whole. everything i was thinking he was to at the same time. we both had dark humor and liked the same things. the things i lacked he made up for and other way around. a special moment that i cherish is we were holding hands in the hall way walking into school and we both started to laugh. we synchronize turned to look at each other and he had asked if i was laughing and i finished his sentence with at the kid. we usually finished each others sentences.
